This discussion was triggered by the comment below, but actually it's something I've wanted to talk about for a while, so I'm not picking on (established member of the community).
Many people believe cats and kittens should be tortured to death, too. Do we need to be nonjudgemental about that too? – (established member of the community)
Sometimes I see questions that make me want to reach through the screen and slap the OP, or worse. For example, when someone says they've been hitting their pet, or want to abandon it, it's tempting to respond with a rant.
However, I try to remember that my goal is to help the animal. If I alienate the person who asks the question, they'll just ignore what I have to say. That's not going to help the animal at all. So I try to answer as nonjudgementally as I can. Difficult though it may be, I try to understand how the OP sees the situation and give them better options for dealing with it.
So yes, I think that even when someone asks a question we find offensive, we need to respond with calm and reason. It doesn't mean that I condone what an OP might have done or might be considering. But I think that's the best way to help the animal.